Recently I have been hearing first-hand about Pastors leaving the ministry. Which causes me to wonder are they under attack? The short answer is “yes… of course… they are always under attack.” The tactics of the enemy do not change. Most often it is the “usual” suspects: 1. The lust of the Flesh, 2. The lust of the eyes and 3. The pride of life. Between seeing “that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise”,,,, many ministry leaders have gotten ensnared by the forbidden. These tactics have ruined many a person, a family and a ministry. But one of the less recognized, but equally destructive tactic of the enemy is something called the “Moses or Diotrephes Syndrome.” This trap is when the Pastor of the church or the leader of the ministry… tries to do everything and the people sit back and watch. The tactic is extremely widespread, and the structure of the church and the attitude of the people feed this flawed and unbiblical model. Over time the Pastor “wears out” and “burns out”.
Here are the cold hard facts about Pastors and what is taking place.
- 42% of pastors are thinking of quitting the ministry, 51% from mainline denominations. (November 29, 2021)
- Of the 38%, almost half (46%) are under age 45. 50% of pastors are age 56 and above
- 90% of the pastors report working between 55 to 75 hours per week.
- 84% of pastors feel they are on call 24/7.
- 80% believe pastoral ministry has negatively affected their families. Many pastor’s children do not attend church now because of what the church has done to their parents.
- 52% of pastors feel overworked and cannot meet their church’s unrealistic expectations.
- 54% of pastors find the role of a pastor overwhelming.
- 53% of pastors report that the seminary did not prepare them for the ministry.
- 90% of pastors report the ministry was completely different than what they thought it would be like before they entered the ministry.
Yikes… this is not good news for the followers of Jesus. Yet we have the best news available anywhere. The Good News that Jesus loves us, came to the earth as the perfect God/ man… died on the cross to pay for our sins and rose again, proving that He was who He said He was. And the Good News continues… his death on the cross is for every person who will believe in their heart and confess with their mouth that Jesus is Lord to the glory of the Father (Romans 10:9-10). So, the question is, if we have such good news why are so many Pastors thinking about quitting this most glorious calling? The answer, in my opinion, is that Pastors… may be suffering from the Moses or Diotrephes syndrome.
What is the Moses syndrome? Very simply put, it is trying to do too much in the ministry and not equipping the saints to do the works of service. Put another way it is trying to be the main person and either consciously or subconsciously, wanting everyone around you to be dependent on you. This will inevitably lead to physical, spiritual, and emotional exhaustion. See Exodus 18:13-23
“It came about the next day that Moses sat to judge the people, and the people stood about Moses from the morning until the evening. 14 Now when Moses’ father-in-law saw all that he was doing for the people, he said, “What is this thing that you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge and all the people stand about you from morning until evening?” 15 Moses said to his father-in-law, “Because the people come to me to inquire of God. 16 When they have a dispute, it comes to me, and I judge between a man and his neighbor and make known the statutes of God and His laws. 17 Moses’ father-in-law said to him, “The thing that you are doing is not good. 18 You will surely wear out, both yourself and these people who are with you, for the task is too heavy for you; you cannot do it alone.”
19 Now listen to me: I will give you counsel, and God be with you. You be the people’s representative before God, and you bring the disputes to God, 20 then teach them the statutes and the laws, and make known to them the way in which they are to walk and the work they are to do. 21 Furthermore, you shall select out of all the people able men who fear God, men of truth, those who hate dishonest gain; and you shall place these over them as leaders of thousands, of hundreds, of fifties and of tens. 22 Let them judge the people at all times; and let it be that every major dispute they will bring to you, but every minor dispute they themselves will judge. So it will be easier for you, and they will bear the burden with you. 23 If you do this thing and God so commands you, then you will be able to endure, and all these people also will go to their place in peace.
Pastors who try to be the focal point in the work of God, fall into the “Moses Syndrome.” Simply put trying to do too much and be at the center of everything. Moses’ father-in-law observes what Moses is doing and has one of the best rhetorical questions in the Bible, “What is this thing that you are doing for the people?” Paraphrasing might sound like this… what kind of system have you developed here that you are the only person that people are coming to? My paraphrase, “what in the world are you doing? This is dumb.” Notice what Moses said in answer to the question, “because the people come to me” and when a dispute arises, “it comes to me” and “I judge between a man and his neighbor.” Again, paraphrasing what Moses said, may sound like this… “I am doing this because the people come to me, and I don’t know if you have heard but I am a big deal in God’s plan…I know Greek and Hebrew.” Pride has led to many a fall.
Again, with one of the best comebacks in Scripture, without missing a beat, Moses father-in-law responds with “The thing you are doing is not good.” Zing, pow, wham and bam. This system you have come up with is broke. Bad plan, try again, and this is what the advice consists of… “train some trustworthy men and share the load.” This is similar to the plan in Eph. 4:11-16. Gifted people in the Body (Apostles, Prophets, Evangelists, Shepherds and Teachers) “equip the saints and the saint do the work.” Don’t try to be Jesus, you don’t have all the gifts. Let me break it down (sorry) for you… Equip the people to connect to Jesus and let Jesus, who is the Head, lead His church (Eph. 4:11-16).
Equipping means that we connect people to Jesus through the Gospel and then connect them to one another in Biblical community where they intentionally study and apply God’s principles to their lives, and then as a Biblical community they use their spiritual gifts to become the hands, feet and voice of Jesus where they live, work, play and go to school. Do not come between Jesus and His people. Let Jesus lead the church by intentionally connecting people to the Head (see John 15:5 and John 10:27). Eph. 4:11-16 is the Biblical pattern for maturing and mobilizing the members of the Body of Christ for ministry and mission (discipleship). It is also the antidote for the Moses Syndrome and in the New Testament it is the antidote to the “Diotrephes Syndrome” (3 John 1:9). Look it up!